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How
to
Manage
Your
Free
Time
When
people
find
out
I
write
about
time
management,They
assume
two
things.
One
is
that
I
m
always
on
time,and
I
m
not.
I
have
four
small
children,and
I
would
like
to
blame
them
for
my
occasional
tardiness,but
sometimes
it
s
just
not
their
fault.
I
was
once
late
to
my
own
speech
on
time
management.
We
all
had
to
just
take
a
moment
together
and
savor
that
irony.
The
second
thing
they
assume
is
that
I
have
lots
of
tips
and
tricks
for
saving
bits
of
time
here
and
there.
Sometimes
I
ll
hear
from
magazines
that
are
doing
a
story
along
these
lines,generally
on
how
to
help
their
readers
find
an
extra
hour
in
the
day.
And
the
idea
is
that
we
ll
shave
bits
of
time
off
everyday
activities,add
it
up,and
we
ll
have
time
for
the
good
stuff.
I
question
the
entire
premise
of
this
piece,but
I
m
always
interested
in
hearing
what
they
ve
come
up
with
before
they
call
me.
Some
of
my
favorites:
doing
errands
where
you
only
have
to
make
right-hand
turns、Being
extremely
judicious
in
microwave
usage:
it
says
three
to
three-and-a-half
minutes
on
the
package,we
re
totally
getting
in
on
the
bottom
side
of
that.
And
my
personal
favorite,which
makes
sense
on
some
level,is
to
DVR
your
favorite
shows
so
you
can
fast-forward
through
the
commercials.
That
way,you
save
eight
minutes
every
half
hour,so
in
the
course
of
two
hours
of
watching
TV,you
find
32
minutes
to
exercise.
Which
is
true.
You
know
another
way
to
find
32
minutes
to
exercise?
Don
t
watch
two
hours
of
TV
a
day,right?
Anyway,the
idea
is
we
ll,save
bits
of
time
here
and
there,add
it
up,we
will
finally
get
to
everything
we
want
to
do.
But
after
studying
how
successful
people
spend
their
time
and
looking
at
their
schedules
hour
by
hour,I
think
this
idea
has
it
completely
backward.
We
don
t
build
the
lives
we
want
by
saving
time.
We
build
the
lives
we
want,and
then
time
saves
itself.
Here
s
what
I
mean.
I
recently
did
a
time
diary
project
looking
at
1,001
days
in
the
lives
of
extremely
busy
women.
They
had
demanding
jobs,sometimes
their
own
businesses,kids
to
care
for,maybe
parents
to
care
for,community
commitments.busy,busy
people.
I
had
them
keep
track
of
their
time
for
a
week,so
I
could
add
up
how
much
they
worked
and
slept,and
I
interviewed
them
about
their
strategies,for
my
book.
One
of
the
women
whose
time
log
I
studied.she
goes
out
on
a
Wednesday
night
for
something.
She
comes
home
to
find
that
her
water
heater
has
broken,and
there
is
now
water
all
over
her
basement.
If
you
ve
ever
had
anything
like
this
happen
to
you,you
know
it
is
a
hugely
damaging,frightening,sopping
mess.
So
she
s
dealing
with
the
immediate
aftermath
that
night,next
day
she
s
got
plumbers
coming
in,day
after
that,professional
cleaning
crew
dealing
with
the
ruined
carpet.
All
this
is
being
recorded
on
her
time
log.
Winds
up
taking
seven
hours
of
her
week.
Seven
hours.
That
s
like
finding
an
extra
hour
in
the
day.
But
I
m
sure
if
you
had
asked
her
at
the
start
of
the
week,“Could
you
find
seven
hours
to
train
for
a
triathlon?““Could
you
dind
seven
hours
to
mentor
seven
worthy
people?“I
m
sure
she
would
ve
said
what
most
of
us
would
ve
said,which
is,“No.can
t
you
see
how
busy
I
am?“Yet
when
she
had
to
find
seven
hours
because
there
is
water
all
over
her
basement,she
found
seven
hours.
And
what
this
shows
us
is
that
time
is
highly
elastic.
We
cannot
make
more
time,but
time
will
stretch
to
accommodate
what
we
choose
to
put
into
it.
And
so
the
key
to
time
management
is
treating
our
priorities
as
the
equivalent
of
that
broken
water
heater.
To
get
at
this,I
like
to
use
language
from
one
of
the
busiest
people
I
ever
interviewed.
By
busy,I
mean
she
was
running
a
small
business
with
12
people
on
the
payroll,she
had
six
children
in
her
spare
time.
I
was
getting
in
touch
with
her
to
set
up
an
interview
on
how
she
“had
it
all“.that
phrase.
I
remember
it
was
a
Thursday
morning,and
she
was
not
available
to
speak
with
me.
Of
course,right?
But
the
reason
she
was
unavailable
to
speak
with
me
is
that
she
was
out
for
a
hike,because
it
was
a
beautiful
spring
morning,and
she
wanted
to
go
for
a
hike.
So
of
course
this
makes
me
even
more
intrigued,and
when
I
finally
do
catch
up
with
her,she
explains
it
like
this.
She
says,“Listen
Laura,everything
I
do,every
minute
I
spend,is
my
choice.“And
rather
than
say,“I
don
t
have
time
to
do
x,y
or
z,“she
d
say,“I
don
t
do
x,y
or
z
because
it
s
not
a
priority.““I
don
t
have
time,“often
means
“It
s
not
a
priority.“If
you
think
about
it,that
s
really
more
accurate
language.
I
could
tell
you
I
don
t
have
time
to
dust
to
dust
my
blinds,but
that
s
not
true.
If
you
offered
to
pay
me
$100,000
to
dust
my
blinds,I
would
get
to
it
pretty
quickly.
Since
that
is
not
going
to
happen,I
can
acknowledge
this
is
not
a
matter
of
lacking
time,it
s
that
I
don
t
want
to
do
it.
Using
this
language
reminds
us
that
time
is
a
choice.
And
granted,there
may
be
horrible
consequences
for
making
different
choices,I
will
give
you
that.
But
we
are
smart
people,and
certainly
over
the
long
run,we
have
the
power
to
fill
our
lives
with
the
things
that
deserve
to
be
there.
So
how
do
we
do
that?
How
do
we
treat
our
priorities
as
the
equivalent
of
that
broken
water
heater?
Well,first
we
need
to
figure
out
what
they
are.
I
want
to
give
you
two
strategies
for
thinking
about
this.
The
first,on
the
professional
side:
I
m
sure
many
people
coming
up
to
the
end
of
the
year
are
giving
or
getting
annual
performance
reviews.
You
look
back
over
your
successes
over
the
year,your
“opportunities
for
growth.“And
this
serves
its
purpose,but
I
find
it
s
more
effective
to
do
this
looking
forward.
So
I
want
you
to
pretend
it
s
the
end
of
next
year.
You
re
giving
yourself
a
performance
review（绩效评估）,and
it
has
been
an
absolutely
amazing
year
for
you
professionally.
Write
next
year
s
review:
What
3-5
things
would
make
it
a
great
year
for
you
professionally.
So
you
can
write
next
year
s
performance
review
now.
And
you
can
do
this
for
your
personal
life,too.
I
m
sure
many
of
you,like
me,come
December,get
cards
that
contain
these
folded
up
sheets
of
colored
paper,on
which
written
what
is
known
as
the
family
holiday
letter.
Bit
of
a
wretched
genre
of
literature,really,going
on
about
how
amazing
everyone
in
the
household
is,or
even
more
scintillating,how
busy
everyone
in
the
household
is.
But
these
letters
serve
a
purpose,which
is
that
they
tell
your
friends
and
family
what
you
did
in
your
personal
life
that
mattered
to
you
over
the
year.
So
this
year
s
kind
of
done,but
I
want
you
to
pretend
it
s
the
end
of
next
year,and
it
has
been
an
absolutely
amazing
year
for
you
and
the
people
you
care
about.
Write
the
family
hollday
letter:
What
three
to
five
things
did
you
do
that
made
it
so
amazing?
So
you
can
write
next
year
s
family
holiday
letter
now.
Don
t
send
it.
Please,don
t
send
it.
But
you
can
write
it.
And
now,between
the
performance
review
and
the
family
holiday
letter,we
have
a
list
of
six
to
ten
goals
we
can
work
on
in
the
next
year.
And
now
we
need
to
break
these
down
into
doable
steps.
So
maybe
you
want
to
write
a
family
history.
First,you
can
read
some
other
family
histories,get
a
sense
for
the
style.
Then
maybe
think
about
the
questions
you
want
to
ask
your
relatives,set
up
appointments
to
interview
them.
Or
maybe
you
want
to
run
a
5K.So
you
need
to
find
a
race
and
sign
up,figure
out
a
training
plan,and
dig
those
shoes
out
of
the
back
of
the
closet.
And
then.this
is
key.we
treat
our
priorities
as
the
equivalent
of
that
broken
water
heater,by
putting
them
into
our
schedules
first.
We
do
this
by
thinking
through
our
weeks
before
we
are
in
them,I
find
a
really
good
time
to
do
this
is
Friday
afternoons.
Friday
afternoon
is
what
an
economist
might
call
a
“low
opportunity
cost“time.
Most
of
us
are
not
sitting
there
on
Friday
afternoons
saying,“I
am
excited
to
make
progress
toward
my
personal
and
professional
priorities
right
now.“But
we
are
willing
to
think
about
what
those
should
be.
So
take
a
little
bit
of
time
Friday
afternoon,make
yourself
a
three-category
priority
list:
career,relationships,self.
Making
a
three-category
list
reminds
us
that
there
should
be
something
in
all
three
categories.
Career,we
think
about;
relationships,self.not
so
much.
But
anyway,just
a
short
list,two
to
three
items
in
each.
Then
look
out
over
the
whole
of
the
next
week,and
see
where
you
can
plan
them
in.Where
you
plan
them
in
is
up
to
you.
I
know
this
is
going
to
be
more
complicated
for
some
people
than
others.
I
mean,some
people
s
lives
are
just
harder
than
others.
It
is
not
going
to
be
easy
to
find
time
to
take
that
poetry
class
if
you
are
caring
for
multiple
children
on
your
own.
I
get
that.
And
I
don
t
want
to
minimize
anyone
s
struggle.
But
I
do
think
that
the
numbers
I
am
about
to
tell
you
are
empowering.
There
are
168
hours
in
a
week.
Twenty-four
times
seven
is
168
hours.
That
is
a
lot
of
time.
If
you
are
working
a
full-time
job,so
40
hours
a
week,sleeping
eight
hours
a
night,so
56
hours
a
week.that
leaves
72
hours
for
other
things.
That
is
a
lot
of
time.
You
say
you
re
working
50
hours
a
week,maybe
a
main
job
and
a
side
hustle
.Well,that
leaves
62
hours
for
other
things.
You
say
you
re
working
60
hours.
Well,that
leaves
52
hours
for
other
things.
You
say
you
re
working
more
than
60
hours.
Well,are
you
sure?
There
was
once
a
study
comparing
people
s
estimated
work
weeks
with
time
diaries.
They
found
that
people
claiming
75-plus-hour
work
weeks
were
off
by
about
25
hours.
You
can
guess
in
which
direction,right?
Anyway,in
168
hours
a
week,I
think
we
can
find
time
for
what
matters
to
you.
If
you
want
to
spend
more
time
with
your
kids,you
want
to
study
more
for
a
test
you
re
taking,you
want
to
exercise
for
three
hours
and
volunteer
for
two,you
can.
And
that
s
even
if
you
re
working
way
more
than
full-time
hours.
So
we
have
plenty
of
time,which
is
great,because
guess
what?
We
don
t
even
need
that
much
time
to
do
amazing
things.
But
when
most
of
us
have
bits
of
time,what
do
we
do?
Pull
out
the
phone,right?
Start
deleting
emails.
Otherwise,we
re
puttering
around
the
house
or
watching
TV.
But
small
moments
can
have
great
power.
You
can
use
your
bits
of
time
for
bits
of
joy.
Maybe
it
s
choosing
to
read
something
wonderful
on
the
bus
on
the
way
to
work.
I
know
when
I
had
a
job
that
required
two
bus
rides
and
a
subway
ride
every
morning,I
used
to
go
to
the
library
on
weekends
to
get
stuff
to
read.
It
made
the
whole
experience
almost,almost,enjoyable.
Breaks
at
work
can
be
used
for
meditating
or
praying.
If
family
dinner
is
out
because
of
your
crazy
work
schedule,maybe
family
breakfast
could
be
a
good
substitute.
It
s
about
looking
at
the
whole
of
one
s
time
and
seeing
where
the
good
stuff
can
go.
I
truly
believe
this,there
is
time.
Even
if
we
are
busy,we
have
time
for
what
matters.
And
when
we
focus
on
what
matters,we
can
build
the
lives
we
want
in
the
time
we
ve
got.